Adoption is, ultimately, an act of sacrificial love. Sacrifice on the part of the birth parents, who choose to surrender their children to parents who can provide what they can not. Sacrifice on the part of adoptive parents who are willing to jump through the hoops and come up with thousands of dollars, to bring children who are very much wanted – and loved – into their homes. The thing is, from the adoptive parent perspective, it doesn’t feel like a sacrifice at all. It really just feels like we did what was necessary to expand our family…just as we did with our biological child. Was it harder? Maybe…maybe not.
We have always felt that we were called to adopt. Not because we didn’t want biological children (we did, and we have one), but because we felt keenly for these children in need of stable homes…homes that are not possible without adoption. In so many cases, I wanted us to be the right family for them, wanted to scoop them up and bring them home. My heart has been full to the point of breaking so many times for the needs of these kids. We have hoped and prayed for them, and that it would be clear to us when we were the family that was needed.
It was clear, in myriad ways, and most surprisingly, in ways we could not have predicted. I am so grateful for that, and for knowing that God was guiding us toward the birth parents whose needs were needs that we could meet, and who committed themselves, without being believers themselves, to make a sacrifice for the sake of their child that would radically glorify God.
I have mentioned more than once that I don’t know how people go through adoption without God. It takes a fortitude and strength, and I don’t have it without God. Still, there are many non-believers who undertake both sides of this journey, and they may not ever know the powerful witness they are for God, just in doing this one thing. Why? Because they are modeling the sacrificial love that God shows us daily…love that is steadfast, love that they (we) choose to take on, love that may or may not be returned, love that is unconditional, love that does not measure what can be gotten in return. God uses us…all of us…to show the depth and breadth of His own love.