I saw this idea on a random blog that I can’t remember now, followed the link, and found an irresistible challenge for the month of April. To get the scoop on the challenge, hop right over to Blogging from A to Z.
I have been thinking for some time that I wanted to challenge myself to write every day for a month, and even committed (more or less) to that in my “101 in 1001” challenge to myself…to do 101 specific things that I have wanted to do but never seem to get around to, and to complete those 101 tasks within 1001 days. Sounds easy, right? Not so much, because a lot of it means changing your habits, adjusting your routines, expanding your comfort zone…you know, changing your life.
So here’s my attempt to blog every day, alphabetically. If you’re intrigued, sign up and blog along with us.
April 1 (A): Arranged Marriages
A fellow WordPress blogger wrote today about how arranged marriages aren’t meant to work in the 21st century. I don’t want to regurgitate her points here, so if you’re interested, here is her post.
Suffice it to say that I heartily and completely disagree.
Here’s why: The arguments that she makes against arranged marriages all stem from what I perceive to be an archly feminist perspective that equates marriage with anything but what it is…a permanent commitment. She supports her perspective by pointing to the (apparently increased) number of divorces among those in their 50s, 60s and even 70s, drawing the conclusion that there is an inherent incompatibility between spouses if they have married by arrangement rather than by love.
I am certainly not here to suggest that all marriages should be arranged, but I challenge her idea that 21st century modernity makes arranged marriages obsolete. They may be so in westernized cultures, where they were never culturally mandated (or particularly accepted). But to suggest, with our western mindset, that all cultures must slough off their traditions because we live in “modern” times is to suggest that cultural conventions, religious convictions, and the like are meaningless unless they are just like ours.
That’s pretty arrogant, and condescending, and (if you read her entry) entirely selfish…all of which are qualities that run counter to what marriage should be. So, perhaps her conclusion should be that marriage – arranged or not – is not for her. I can only hope, with her self-centered perspective, that she will choose (wisely) to remain single.